Sometimes silence is welcome

Supporting A Loved One 101

Sometimes silence is welcome.

The trauma of an adverse medical diagnosis such as cancer brings an awkward wordlessness because it feels like there are no words to describe what happened. There are not enough words to describe what is on in one’s mind, emotions or body. In a single moment, life changes forever. It feels like the world stopped turning.

Words like life, change and health have new meanings or no known meaning at all. The numbness and feeling overwhelmed last longer than anyone could ever imagine. It can last days, weeks or months. They become unwelcome companions that come and go all the time. Every time they come back, they bring more huge emotions like anxiety, fear, anger and frustration.

Silence is welcome because sometimes you need to sit with your loved one in silence. It is the best way to be with them, so they are not alone in their quest to find words. You don’t have to have all the answers. Old clichés will only enhance feelings of shame, fear and guilt. You don’t need to fill the quietness with empty words or silly jokes. Your silent prayer is the most powerful gift you can bring to the situation.

Blessings

Dr Barbara Louw

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